MUM’S LOVING AN ADDICT…
Helping mums deal with children and their addictions.
My Journey
I’m Kellee and I have been loving my 24 year old daughter who suffers from an addiction for 6 years, and it’s been a hell journey of loneliness.
I created this forum to help others like me looking for answers and support.
My journey has taken me through the ups and downs - now I want to be able to share and help others via a one-on-one counselling session or as part of the shared experience and learning through a 10 week online course.
You are here because…
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…You are seeking help because your child has made choices and decisions towards addiction.
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…You want to share your experiences with others in similar circumstances, learn and traverse through the issues at hand together.
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…You want to help your child take ownership of choices and decisions which ultimately touches other people around them.
What kind of support do you need?
Join our online support group consisting of a 10 week program to work through the process OR an online one-on-one counselling session.
A message to the mum with an addicted child…
When you find out that the pregnancy test is positive, you're excited and full of emotions. Then your head wonders to a place of how’s and what’s. This is normal when you bring a child into this world, all your decisions and beliefs will now be reflected into the child.
As they enter into adulthood their future is starting to develop, they grow and move into their own unique personality and characteristics. These all come with the growth of life. They develop their own choices and rules which do not necessarily reflect on you or the values that you instilled in them as part of their upbringing.
You are visiting this web site because your child is or has made some choices that have taken them towards an addiction. The burden that you carry now is greater than life itself. When our children were young and playing up or stepping outside of the boundaries we could discipline them. Now in adulthood this is no longer the case, we try, we struggle, we bribe but it all falls on deaf ears with unresponsive results. You no longer the legal right to make decisions for them or put them in their room for a time out. We may say some things that lead to the likes of “I didn’t raise you to be this way” or “if it was my parents I would get my ass kicked.” Or you can tilt towards the self-blame “I’m a bad parent, I should’ve done more/less.” We will try to justify their actions, hide it from family and friends because we feel shamed by our child’s mistakes and their addiction.
We have to remember that as a parent we all make mistakes, which is something we have to embrace. You have to stop the blame game, they are now an adult and you can’t turn back time. They have the power and the need to make their own choices and decisions, but they also have to own them whatever the outcome!
We need to learn to develop new strategies to live with the situation and help overcome their addiction.
Bad decisions can lead to a tendency of blaming the parents for their addiction due to their upbringing - this is not your fault. They have to take responsibility and stop playing the victim, and unfortunately this is only a choice they can make - get help to detox or continue on with the addiction.
The 10-week course will help you through this process and you will be surrounded by other mums that are also facing the same battles. If you prefer, you can also have a one-on-one counselling session with me.
Kellee Lucinsky | Founder of Mum’s Loving an Addict